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Letting go of The Past that Hurts

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There is a popular saying

“if you do not let go of your past you will pass with the past.”

Many of us find it difficult to forget about the awful, horrible, terrible bad things that happened to us either because of the decisions and choices we made in life or things that happened without us knowing what led to the outcome.

Most times we struggle because the people in our lives made bad choices and the results of those choices backfires and eventually we get involved.

It is important to recognize what had happened but do you have to stick to it? No

You’ve got to stand up and move on.  It might have happened years ago or yesterday but what matters is that it doesn’t have to remain there, that is why it is called the PAST cause it is meant to be behind and it is improper to keep the past before you, it blocks one from seeing the FUTURE.

A beautiful young lady was hurt because she was violated by her father’s younger brother, a man she called Uncle and for years she remained in pain because of the hatred in her heart for men.

To her they were all beasts, she couldn’t believe any man after all if her uncle could be that callous – her own blood , what could any other any other man not do.

The hatred grew day by day and occupied every aspect of her life, she was limited until she met someone who talked her out of the burden of holding onto the past.

It probably would have continued to imprison her if she had not made a choice to forgive him, let go and move on.

We’ve all been hurt in one way or the other. I guess there isn’t anyone who hasn’t had any bad experience in life.

It hurts, yes.

How you handle the hurt is far more important than the hurt. Whether to let the scar spread or for it to heal. Blaming others for our awful past cannot be a way out of it rather it get us stucked in the pain.

Until you are able to let go of those hurtful events you will continue to be a prisoner to them while they continue to steal your joy.

Be able to say “Enough is enough. I’m sick and tired of these bad experiences that keep coming back to hurt my today and stops me from moving forward”.

Just like you cannot put in new things into a box that is filled, that is the same way new things cannot come into a heart that is filled up with pain and hurt.

Those things that happened in the past can’t just go on their own , we have to make the decision to let go – to stop feeling the pain that accompanies the past, it doesn’t stop at making the decision but also being able to stick to it.

Since you cannot undo the past, the only decision worth taking is the decision to stop seeing yourself as the victim of awful experiences.

Then focus on the present and future cause making then better I’d the best way of correcting the past. Forgive not just those who caused you pain but also learn to forgive yourself. The worse thing that can happen to you is being able to forgive others but not yourself.

Aim higher, achieve greater heights, with that you can let go of your past


(12) Comments

  1. Love this post, definitely something I needed to read today! Thank you!

  2. It's definitely something that is easier than done. But I think it's so important to move on and forgive and not let it effect our present or our future!

  3. I think acknowledging that the past cannot be changed and so it is pointless to dwell on it is the key. Past events shape us as a person, my past has shown how strong I have become now

  4. I'm delighted that you've benefited from this post…I guess it was specially meant for you

  5. Yes Whitney it isn't easy but with time – the healer of all wounds, inasmuch as you don't keep dwelling on it. Thanks for your comment.

  6. Nice write up Nicki. I agree with you – past events shape us

  7. Great tips for anyone who's had to overcome hardship! So basically everyone on planet Earth. Thanks for sharing!

  8. So true, what happened in the past is what makes us who we are now. We all need a pep talk now and then to remind us how destructive it can be if we dwell in the past for too long!

  9. If we don’t learn from our past, we’re doomed to repeat it. Reflecting on our past reveals who we are and how we got here. Great post.

  10. Thanks for dropping by Jen Project

  11. Thanks for your comment Nita

  12. So true Sam
    Thank you

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